DIARIES OF TIRED YOUNG AFRICANS

DIARIES OF TIRED YOUNG AFRICANS

The Unlucky Relationship Story Of Sandra Udoh

Sandra Udoh is a 35 year old lady who has had series and series of broken relationships. Despite the fact that she has a good, kind and soft heart, she's been taken advantage of, bruised and bastadized by virtually all the young men she has come in contact with most of which are ferocious and predators, who only see her as their best alternative of livelihood.

Sandra Udoh is originally from Akwa Ibom state of Nigeria but she resided at the suburb of Ikotun which is under Alimosho local government of Lagos State, Nigeria.

As an aspiring young lady, she ventured into clothing business which enabled her to support her younger ones through school. She also lived in a comfortable apartment with a nice car and some cool money stashed in her bank account.

Due to her kind heartedness, she's always prone to show genuine love, care and support to whoever seems to have a 'genuine' interest in her.

Unfortunately for her, most of the men who have approached her for a serious relationship have ended up defrauding, beating and abusing her and this has been on for quite a period of time to a point that she has become an object of ridicule to her friends and family. It's so bad that her younger siblings are all married and yet she's still single. But would you blame her for being so nice and naive to a fault?.

An incident occurred a while back where a seemingly genuine man called off his wedding plan with her few days to their wedding day having distributed wedding invitations to friends and family.

What happened?

She had a fling with her ex few days to her wedding. But that's not the issue. The issue was that this ex of a guy in the process of having a romp with her put a call through to her husband to be with her own phone unknowing to her, he put the call on loud speaker while they both made reckless moaning.

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Her husband to be heard all the noise at the background, felt so embarrassed and eventually called off the wedding.

This singular incident prompted beatings, insults and all kinds of abuses on her from friends and family members alike owing to the fact that she brought a big embarrassment to her family. You can imagine her emotional state during this period of time.

Sandra has been so unlucky with men. She has also made several mistakes in the process. In trying not to justify her mistakes, we can still say she's just a human with series of unfortunate events.

Having had these bizzare broken relationships and sagas, her heart should have become sealed with hot iron.

However, she still gave a few trials on some relationships but this time around, with some measure of caution, having recovered from her psychological and emotional trauma. Unfortunately, nothing seems to be working.

She actually told a friend of hers few years back that if relationship/marriage doesn't work for her here in Nigeria, her final option would be to relocate elsewhere and probably get married to a foreigner.

Currently, without letting anyone know, not even her close friends, she secretly relocated to Australia where she's currently based, trying to put her past behind her while thriving to find a new life.

So, if you were to give a word of advice to Sandra at this time of her life, what would you like to say to her?

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